Tuesday, October 23, 2012

★GossShop: Will He Ever Marry You?


Today's topic is on relationships...again. Most of us have come to the realization that men and women are different in their ways, just as night and day. In my life span I have witnessed couples date a few times and then never date again.  I've witnessed couples shack up together for years, and then go their separate ways. I have also witnessed couples marry and then divorce. Then I have witnessed couples date forever and live happily ever after, shack up forever and live happily ever after, and also marry and live happily ever after. What I have yet to figure out is what or who decides the dynamic of relationships. Who truly calls the shots or shall I say sets the pace?

I've known some women to get several proposals and/or marriages, and some none. Some men remain in a 'married type' relationship without fully committing to marriage.

In my opinion, it's not the baddest biatch in bed, or the one who reminds him of his mom...or the one who caters to his every desire. I believe that a man has to be in a marriage mindset before any of those things come into play. Most men settle down simply because he feels its the right time, not necessarily because he feels he's with the right person. A man looks for the right person once he has decided that he wants to settle down...and if he's not with who he feels is the right woman when he decides it time to settle, he will settle with Mrs. Wrong for as long as she allows, while keeping a vigilant eye out for Mrs. Right.

If your man uses the words 'I' and 'me' a lot, then his future plans don't include you.

If your man makes major decisions, such as buying a house, and neglects to ask your opinion, you probably won't be living in it with him.

If he doesn't show interest in your interests, he's not that interested in you.

If he hasn't introduced you to most of the important people in his life, you're not a very important person in his life.

Here are the question(s) of the day.

★Q.
What do you feel is the deciding factor on relationships as far as men are concerned?

Do men really know what they want?

If a woman demands marriage 'or else', and the man chooses the latter, does that mean that he wasn't planning on marrying her?

★A.
@richforeman:

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@MonstaMe:
There isn't one blueprint answer for this...everyone is different. You can be in love and fully committed without standing in front of a pastor, preacher or judge. First, it depends on the female and the male...some couples are fine without getting married.  Men can only do what women allow. If she's not pressing the issue of marriage, why get married? If men are comfortable in a certain situation, we ain't changing shit. Things can be fine the way they are, and then you get married and things begin to fall apart. Women settle for 10 years then all of a sudden they're ready. If he doesn't feel like she will leave him for not saying I do, it's a moot point to him...it's simple...someone HAS to put their foot down.

I will say this, NOT MOST of the time, but A LOT of the time the deciding factor for a man is that he's afraid he's about to lose her.

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What are your views? Share them with me and my friends.

Until the next time...
This is Cold Medinah reminding you to Keep it Cold! Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.


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